Ask Golda! How To Find The Beauty In Fat

Do you find it hard to find the beauty in fat (your own or someone else’s). Watch this video for some help on letting go of internalized negative beliefs about fat! You can use the techniques I mention to start finding fat (and your own body in general) more appealing.

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Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. To learn more about Golda and her work, click here.

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8 thoughts on “Ask Golda! How To Find The Beauty In Fat

  1. This is a really lovely video. I’d like to share a slightly different approach that I’ve taken, but I hasten to say that I don’t mean this in any way to take away from the approach you describe here, Golda! I think my approach is only subtly different and leads to the same place. I have found it easier to look at people if my approach is to truly see what they look like rather than what I’ve been trained to think they ought to look like. Trying to see beauty for me gets in the way of opening my interest in seeing what people look like.

    This is impossible to do on television because people hardly ever look like people on television; they’ve nearly all been distorted in some way, whether flattered or unflattered. When I look at people, in person, without comparison to an ideal, it turns out I enjoy looking at people. I enjoy looking at the shapes of people’s faces and the shapes of their bodies, whether I find them sexy or not, and whether I find them pretty/handsome/beautiful or not. They are interesting to look at. This has been my route to appreciating people visually, enjoying them as they look, and I think that enjoyment is the same or very close to your talk of seeing abundant beauty.

    It also means that I deeply enjoy, say, my lover’s half-bald head, far more than he enjoys it. That appreciation spills over, and I like the sensation of running my cheek over his head and feeling the fuzziness of the parts with hair and the smoothness of the parts without.

    After doing this for some time I was able to start spending time gazing at my own body in a mirror, again with the aim of knowing what I look like but not the aim of finding myself beautiful. Over time this has turned into me appreciating my own body visually. I still don’t consider myself beautiful, but I don’t mind. That’s not the point for me. I appreciate what I look like.

  2. Golda this is such a great response to this question. I wanted to add that not only can our bodies bring us pleasure, but we can also enjoy the amazing things our bodies can do. To think of our bodies as acting, dancing, playing and working in concert with our needs and desires. Fat bodies are amazing bodies and can do so much, we should start appreciating them.

  3. Of course part of the problem is that larger people are rarely presented in a positive light. At best we are seen as the funny sidekick. Often we are presented as vile gluttons and are the butt of cruel jokes. I always found it easier to see the beauty in other larger people than in myself.

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