by Golda Poretsky, HHC
Have you guys heard of this show, Bridalplasty, where brides-to-be compete for plastic surgery?
I can’t believe this crap is real.
And, the winner gets, I believe, a full body plastic surgery makeover and a “celebrity dream wedding”.
How did they market this to their potential contestants?
Are you terribly unhappy with your body and about to walk down the aisle? Do you like to compete in degrading challenges, on camera, in the hopes of winning prizes like syringes full of botox?
Then you should audition for Bridalplasty!
If you win, you too can spend your wedding day and honeymoon still healing from the physical trauma of surgery! You won’t have to worry about smile and frown lines cropping up in your wedding pictures, because you won’t be able to do either! And don’t worry — those unsightly post-surgery scars and bruises will be hidden under layers of crinoline.
But, seriously, I think the fact that this show exists illustrates an interesting point about body image. It illustrates the fact that, if you’re dealing with body image issues, getting what you want doesn’t actually make you feel better.
Often, people with body image issues see their perceived flaws as preventing them from having what they want. So, for example, if you’re a single fat woman who doesn’t feel good about your body and wants to be in a relationship, you may feel like your fat is preventing you from having that relationship.
At the same time, people with body image issues often feel like once they have that thing that they want, their body image will improve. So using this example, this single fat lady might feel like once she has the relationship, fat or thin, she might be able to accept herself better.
But it usually doesn’t work the way you’d think. You may think that once you’ve “achieved” this thing that you want, you’ll feel better about yourself. And maybe you do for a brief, fleeting moment. But then your negative self image returns, and then you’re under even more stress. You’re under the stress of trying to hide your flaws. If you’re in a new relationship, you’re trying to hide your flaws from your partner. If it’s a new job, it’s hiding your flaws from bosses and coworkers. If you lose weight, you’re trying to hide the fact that you’re dieting, hide the fact that you still perceive yourself as fat, etc. etc.
Of course, I don’t know any of the “bridetestants” on Bridalplasty, but I could imagine what might have driven them to compete in a show like this. I could imagine how getting what they wanted (assuming they wanted a non-eloping type of wedding), after the initial excitement, exacerbated their negative body image, their low self worth, their fears of being seen, flaws and all, by family and friends.
Truthfully, no amount of plastic surgery can really fix negative self image. Getting plastic surgery is just like getting the relationship or the wedding — it doesn’t actually fix how you feel about yourself. It’s inner work, and not outer work, that is required. It’s like retiling a perfectly good roof on a house with a bad foundation. The whole thing is going to crumble if you keep ignoring the foundation.
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Golda Poretsky, H.H.C. is a certified holistic health counselor who specializes in transforming your relationship with food and your body. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/stay-in-touch/ to sign up for her newsletter and get your free download — Golda’s Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!
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